KLCC car park incident

As usual I walk to the car park alone today after work, my mood was good after catching up with a long lost friend by accident (he was a friend of mine which none of us realize). I’m glad to tell them that now I live a healthy life, I don’t club I don’t drink and I don’t smoke anymore. And I thank God for the change in me. There were 3 of us in the lift: a well dressed chinese lady, a baju kurung malay lady and myself. I overheard them talking about changing job changing industry changing boss, the common topic you get to hear in the office area.

Then the lift stopped at basement 3, I walked towards my car, I saw the malay lady waking to the same direction like I do. I saw the MPV that parked beside me this morning, the car was actually “in the parking box”. Yes, that’s how I would term it, as in it is so slanted that you could not parked straight next to them. So I find myself squeezing through the small space between the two cars, surprising the malay lady was just standing behind me.. So what happened next? Robbery? Kidnap? Terrorist? Suicide bomber?

Wrong, you got it all wrong!!! As I make my way to my car seat, she come near to me and smile “I was looking at you just now, you have very nice complexion.” I was flattered by her comment and I regret for cursing the MPV owner this morning. Though she has terrible parking skill, she has a kind heart. I looked at the rear mirror for like about 30 seconds, left right, front back, adoring though each and every single pore and hair I have on the face. And I say to myself “it’s just so simple to say a compliment and make somebody’s day!”

I once read a book by John Maxwell about how to make others feel like a million bucks. He list out 25 ways to win people under his leadership series book. One of the strategies is to make compliments within the first 30 seconds you start a conversation with somebody. Who will not be glad to receive compliments, it makes one feel good about themselves and hence about the person who made the compliments as well. And now you all people out there, can you think when was the last time you received a compliment and it brighten your boring lousy day?

If a stranger or a friend can make your day by just saying a few lines, will you not try it to the person whom you love, to the person who loves you and to the person who was always there for you, to the person who helped you through and to the person you appreciate most. Think about something encouraging that you can tell them, whether they look radiant, they close a deal, they bring laughter or anything that could make them feel good. Come on, try it and tell me if it works.

my super nanny

It is a norm in my company to have your boss changed every year, I’ve been with the company two years, and I’ve already changed two bosses with the third one still pending to come. From a junior and totally fresh non technical backgound lass two years ago now I am the most senior and the only one in my part of job today. Sounds like a good thing to me ya?

Yes and no, and I am more prone to the no side. Reason being when my boss was here, I do my part of the job and he does his, we already worked out “the way” to collaborate and cooperate our job to get the optimus result, and we are both happy about it. When Ifirst heard that he would be transferred to another department, I don’t have much worries about it because well I think I’m goning to train the new boss the same tricks.

But the trouble now is the new boss is yet to be here, and the other senior has been replaced by a totally out of the way young chap who is so enthusiastic about his new job. I’ve known this chap for a long time, in fact we even hang out for drinks sometimes when we head for the same business trip. And now he is my boss’s assistant.

From the first day of work, he called me at 9am asking “where is my seat?”, well, out of courtesy I showed him the way. Then he continued to ask “ where is the toilet?” so well, again out of courtesy I pointed him way to the toilet and I hang around in another department on some discussion. 20 minutes later, I saw the secretary rushing to me and said “your boss is stranded in the emergency exit!”

First thing that crossed my mind was the alarm alert some time ago, which only ring when somebody hacks into the emergency exit and we both rushed our way to the emergency and saw him with his all sweat out look staring at me.

Later in the aftennoon, he changed his questions into “ can you help me to call so and so?” “ can you help me to reserve a meeting room?” and I gently hold my breath (actually flame of fire) and tell him we have a secretary and it’s her job and do this for you. Guess this chap never learnt his lesson and when I knock off at 6pm, I packed my stuff and head home, what do you think he asked me? Think… and he asked “ aren’t you wait for me to go home?” Gosh..

征婚启示

从来没有见过那么“苦命”的人，从第一天认识Z，他就告诉我他的生活很忧郁。身边朋友陆陆续续谈恋爱，每次朋友聚会他都是夹在某某情侣中间，电灯炮已经亮了很久，希望能停工插插电。我问他“为什么你不谈恋爱呢？”他轻轻叹了一口气“很久以前谈过，受过伤，熬过苦，渐渐失去爱情的冲动”。这小子年纪轻轻就说出这一般话，我也不知道是现在年轻人早熟，竟然能看破红尘，还是年少无知，竟然不明白单身的乐趣。

后来Z被调到海外工作，好多个晚上都发短信告诉我他失眠了。工作压力大，在办公事被上司欺负，在外头被客户压迫，在家里一个人孤零零，想找个人吃饭都没有。无情的我竟然每次都告诉他用力打自己几个巴掌就会睡着的，试过以后不管能不能睡着都不要再烦我，因为我正睡得甜，这种打击对失眠的人应该很大吧：）后来他学会了隔天早上才告诉我他失眠了，反正晚上天塌了下来他也不敢再给我打电话。

今天MSN他突然说了一句话“你可以把我的故事写出来，给我介绍一个女朋友吗？”我心顿时划过好多个念头：我什么时候开始变成点唱机，随便丢几个零钱就能播放歌曲？可是，如果我把他的故事写出来,找到一个女朋友那我岂不是变成媒人？接下来我的博客是否可以经营match making生意? 那我是不是要设计一个完美的系统让天下有情人终成眷属？

哇塞。。想着想着自己呵呵在笑。可是我还装冷静的告诉他“请提供妳的个人资料，年龄，收入，资产，条件等”Z吓了一跳，博客而已，不需要这些细节吧？“那选择提供你的理想结婚岁数，想要生几个小孩？”Z一百正经回答说我希望在29－31岁之间结婚，2－3 个小孩. 我调皮的回答说，那你等4年后我再给你写吧，反正你现在才25岁。。

各位亲爱的朋友，如有你们家里有女初成长，想要找个天真直率的男孩谈纯纯的恋爱。请拨电9738 2938。哈哈，电话是假的啦，真的有兴趣就告诉我，我会认证安排的！！不收佣金喔。

R&D wedding (2)

“Erm..Uncle, can I marry your daughter?” “Erm.. Ladies and gentleman, I’ve decided to marry R.” “ Uncle, aunty, goh goh, jie jie, R and I will be getting married soon.” No good no good!! How should I start the topic?

I wonder how many times all these statements came across D’s mind have. Yes, he is the husband-to-be of my beloved R. Yes, they have decided to settle down. But, both their parents are not aware of this yet.

Haha, this is the tricky part. R and I was just discussing maybe she should bring along a camera on the big night and record each and every words he whisper, how he make his confession and how he commit himself to take care of her for the rest of his life, for richer for poorer, till death do them part.

You may not want to keep this for yourself, you may remember exactly how you feel for the first one week, but memory will fade, be it yours or his or everybody else. So remember to take from me the camera, and show the recording to your first born child and tell them “ See, this is how your mummy got trapped last time.”

Of course R was not tricked into marriage by his sweat talk, D has got ONE valid reason why R should marry him. Shhh… this you can not tell your children ya, else they will bully their dad later.

“ Oh darling, after a thorough consideration and much preparation, I hereby hand to you a wedding proposal on the year 2008 for the following reason, which is also the one and only reason: I notice that you do not like to do housework, you could leave your maggie bowl unwashed for weeks until worms are spreading on top of it, you could changed your bed sheet without bringing the used one to laundry for months, by saying this I am not trying to say that you are a messy person, I know you like cleanliness but sometimes you are just too lazy to handle all these chores. If you marry me, I will guarantee that you have a clean and tidy house everyday you come home, I can even take care of your father’s laundry (which I am already doing now), with this I can see a more cheerful you with less stressful life and we will live happily ever after.”

来自火星的男人啊

来自火星的男人啊
怎么你们星球真的没有女人
怎么你们眼里没有男女之别
怎么你们不明白女人的言语

我们说话就不喜欢说出口
我们做决定就是举棋不定
我们心情不好不需要原因
是金星的女人啊

老天偏偏要安排
那天男人和女人在地球遇见
那种天旋地转的感觉很奇妙
那刻开始他们进化变成恋人

本性偏偏却难改
男人说话直肠直肚伤害了她
女人解释吞吞吐吐激怒了他
两个人从此就回到各自星球

当两个人分隔在宇宙的两端
却发觉原来当初是多么的傻
望着星星心里想着他想着她
星际另一端那个他过得好吗

在一起会再争吵
在一起是否值得
不知道如何开口
不知道如何决定

来自火星的男人啊
你现在习惯女人的忽冷忽热
你现在明白女人的问长问短
你现在发觉女人原来很可爱

我们发觉不开口不是不关心
我们明白爱不一定每天拥抱
我们知道原来你心里深爱的
是金星的女人啊

我就知道事情没有那么简单

前段时间医生说我患了忧郁症。 忧郁症，你们知道什么是忧郁症吗？就像电影情节某个女人因为被老公抛弃受不了打击换上忧郁症胡思乱想，最后无声无息的跑上天台，“碰”跳了一来结束自己的生命的那种吗? 我心里捏了一把冷汗，难道我这么年轻，还没结婚，还没小孩，还没创业，还么赚钱，就。。。

自从阿姆斯特丹回来就没有一天睡好，和平常一样十点半上床，十分钟睡着，感觉懒洋洋，很舒服的。只不过每天到了凌晨一两点钟，总会突然咋醒，而且精神状态是非常活跃的，简直想吃了兴奋剂一样再也睡不会去。然后就会在思考，人生到底是为了什么，为什么我好像什么都有，也好像什么都没有，活在世上这么多年为自己为家人贡献过什么？失去一个男人自己得到了什么？想着想着就会滔滔大哭，越哭越凄惨，越哭越失落。

医生继续问：“你想过自杀吗？”我想了一想。“没有， 不过有时候会觉得或者怎么那么难。” 医生用很严厉的眼眶藐我一下，很沉重的语气说“这就是自杀的念头！”我惊慌的快要发抖，以前的我总是在说只有一无所有的人才有闹自杀，不负责任的人才会去死。这医生怎么搞的？随便两句话就把我判死刑？我有深爱我的家人，热情的同事，友好的死党，良好的嗜好，我怎么会轻易放弃宝贵的生命呢?

可是原来忧郁症是一种病，它无色无影无孔不入插进你每个神经细胞，搞到你自己在做什么想什么都分不清是自己是别人。医生没有给我安眠葯，她说药品帮不了你。 那我问神啊，你会帮我吗?

R&D wedding (1)

昨天和R吃饭，说起男朋友向她求婚的消息，实在太令人振奋了！他们两在一起已经快2年，中间穿插过许多争吵，冷静，和好，甜蜜时期，现在已经属于安定下来平凡过日子的阶段。我好奇问她，你真的决定了吗？结婚好像不是因为求婚过程浪漫而随便答应的喔。R想也不想就回答我说：“这世界上我找不到其他人比他更疼爱我了”虽然结婚得人不是我，我也感觉到她心里头的那种幸福。人们辛辛苦苦追求的爱情，不就是想找个人来疼自己共同度过人生的每一个阶段。生活不管有多艰难，日子不管有多不如意，只要回到家里有个爱你的人安抚一下，明天马上又看到希望。

一向来我觉得两个人在一起感觉很重要，男朋友一定要温柔体贴，大事小事帮你代劳，家事公事帮你分担，无时无刻让你觉得自己是世界上最幸福的女人；到昨天我才发觉我的眼光实在太短浅，根本没有了解到人生涉及到比感觉比浪漫更重要更广泛的事情。R接着说“他很疼爱我爸，我们结婚后会爸我爸接过来一块住”。R男朋友从小父亲就离开家里，一年也没见几次面或说几句话，可能他现在对R爸的关怀可以弥补他对父爱的情怀。他会帮R爸洗衣服，晾衣服，收拾好放在他的床边，有时候还会叮咛R说那双袜子破了要补一下，这样对他对R都是件好事。

唉，替R高兴了一阵子以后发觉自己最好的朋友要出嫁了，自己竟然有一点失落的感觉。以前无论什么开心不开心，欢喜不欢喜都可以第一时间打电话告诉她，每次见面就一大堆事情一五一十向大家报告，有时候感觉见面就为了想大家汇报每周进展，确保大家日子都过得很好。结婚以后可能她就会搬家，结婚以后她就会生小孩，结婚以后她就会变成黄脸婆，哈哈，我事怎么了，竟然为这种事情而担心，难道我已经得到别人婚前我忧郁症，别再想了，别再想了，还是会去好好工作吧：）