Tuesday, 30 September 2008

when my parents go holiday

I’ve been traveling quite a lot in the past two years, I’ve learnt from checking the packing list one week in advance to packing the luggage one night before departure, things has been so routine to me now that I prefer to live on business trip more than home.

I do not worry about when to go, where to stay and how to commute anymore, the working culture here has trained me to be a “last minute” person, things will be worked out anyway, so don’t spend so much time thinking about how to work things out.

Until yesterday my parents told me “ this holiday we are going for holiday: mama is going to Sabah and papa is going to China.” What?!?! You are going on separate holiday? Nope, we are taking turn to go holiday, we have separate schedule and companion.

At first I told well it's good for them to take some time off to rest and relax, you know “parenting” job does not offer them any annual leave or sick leave through out the years. They have joined many local tours whenever they can squeeze out the time and energy to have fun a little.

When I come back from work today, my mom casually said “I use your black colour bag for my trip ya” Then so many thoughts crossed my mind over the split second: When is the flight? Where is the hotel? Who is the room mate? What is the hotel number? How is the itinerary?

I thought I do not want to over react, so I just nod my head and walk to my room. But when I was in the shower, my mind continued to wonder: What have she packed? What have she not packed? How is the weather there? How much money does she needs? I nearly want to go straight to her room and open up the luggage to check.

It feels just so strange that it’s time when we worry about our parents like they did when we were kids, I now finally understand why parents never stop worrying about their children, it is the never ending love that they have for the children. I feel so much like giving her a goodbye hug before she went to bed, but I’m worry that I may scare her off, lol.

Stay Away from Cervical Cancer

It was to my great surprise when the gynae told me the other day that we can now take vaccine to prevent cervical cancer, gynae took out a brochure and told me “Think about it, it’s good for yourself”. Well, firstly I have not heard about it before, secondly I doubt we can prevent cancer. So I go on to study about it, here’s some fact to share:

What is cervical cancer?
Cervical cancer is a disease caused by the abnormal growth and division of cells that make up the cervix, which is the narrow, lower end of the uterus (womb). Cervix is the neck of the womb (uterus) and it connects the body of the uterus to the vagina (birth canal).

What is the cause?
Cervical cancer is caused by a common virus called Human PapillomaVirus (HPV) and at least 50% of people who are sexually active will get genital HPV. HPV has nothing to do with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. There are 46 genetic types of HPV, but not all are dangerous. Only certain types of HPV, which can be transmitted from one person to another during sexual contact, increase the risk of cell dysplasia (abnormal cell growth) and/or progression to cervical cancer.

Who is at risk?
Every year, about half a million women have cervical cancer and about a quarter million die, and it is sad to know that every two minutes a woman dies of cervical cancer. In Malaysia, an average of about 2,000 to 3,000 women are admitted to hospitals for cervical cancer every year and about 500 die from it. The National Cancer Registry Report 2003 lists cervical cancer as the second-most common cancer that affects women in Malaysia, accounting for 12.9% of all female cancers.

Can it be prevented?
Until recently the only way to prevent cervical cancer wa regular Pap Smear testing to look for early signs of the disease. Pap Smear is a test that checks the cell on the cervix for changes that could lead to cancer. The good news is there is now other means of protection against cervical cancer.

Types of vaccines:

1. Cervarix
Cervarix is a vaccine intended to protect females against the diseases caused by infection with Human Papillomavirus (HPV) types 16 and 18. HPV types 16 and 18 are responsible for approximately 70% of cervical cancer cases.

2. Gardasil :
Gardasil is the cervical cancer vaccine that helps protect against 4 types of human papillomavirus (HPV): 2 types that cause 70% of cervical cancer cases, and 2 more types that cause 90% of genital warts cases. Gardasil is for girls and young women ages 9 to 26.

How the vaccine works?
Vaccination is to prevent HPV infection and may help to reduce risk of cervical cancer and other HPV related diseases caused by certain types of HPV. Ideally, a female should get the vaccine before they are sexually active because the vaccine is most effective in female who have not yet acquired any of the HPV types covered by the vaccine.

How much it costs?
At the moment, the market price of each dose of vaccine ranges from RM400-RM450 per dose. One will receive 3 doses where after the first does, the second and third dose will be given 2 months and 6 months after the first dose.

I came across this when I ran through all the news clipping :“The decision to protect your health is your own responsibility – you owe it to yourself, your husband and your children to do what it takes to protect yourself from this disease.” I’m seriously considering the vaccine, and you hope you feel the same and please spread the news to all ladies around.

Wednesday, 24 September 2008

do you want to know when will you die?

What will normal people response to this question? Many of us will say “choi!!! dai gat lei si!!!*” Death always seems to be a dark and gloomy word to think about, what more to think about out own death. If given a choice, many of us rather not to know when we will die so that we don’t have to face the remaining days left with fear and tears.

But today I read a book about this person who said “I’m very lucky to know when I would die because I have all the time I get to say good-bye.” He even had a “living funeral” for himself, for he thinks it is a waste when all the friends and family pay tribute to the dead but they never got to hear any of it. He cried and laughed with the dearest people in his life and all the heartfelt things he never get to said to those he loves he said that day.

He is the main character in the best selling nonfiction book by American author Mitch Albom “Tuesday with Morrie”, Professor Morrie Schwartz. This is a true story of the last lesson that the author learnt from his college psychology professor who is dying from some serious neurological disease called amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), also known as Lou Gehrig's Disease.

Death is the main topic around all the topics they discussed every week (if you want to know why Tuesday, go grab a copy of the book); it is death that makes Morrie had profound philosophies about living. I especially like what Morrie said when Mitch asked him if he felt sorry for himself. Morrie said he give himself a good cry if he need it, but then he concentrate on all the good things still in his life. He doesn’t allow himself anymore self-pity than that, a little each morning, a few tears and that’s all.

I thought exactly the same like Mitch about all the people who spent many of their waking hours feeling sorry for themselves, maybe they don’t stay in a luxury condo, maybe they don’t drive a sports car, maybe they don’t have a rich and handsome boyfriend and the list go on and on and they don’t intend to stop it. Sometimes we focus too much on the material things on earth and we forgotten about the most basic and original reason and live on.

I like this story I heard about this teacher who ask the students in the class “What are the seven wonders of the world?” Some said the Great Wall, the Pyramid, the Pisa Tower and so on, but there is one little girl who put up her tiny hand and answer “ The seven wonders of the world is to able to see, to hear, to smell, to taste, to touch, to feel and to love.” We should be grateful to God every morning we open our eyes, for we have been given another day in life.

Monday, 8 September 2008

Tiffany & Co





“我老公偷偷在北京给我买的Tiffany & Co :)